Chained.
Ten years ago, I married a narcissistic sociopath. As I began to awaken, I asked myself: how did an Army Officer of 20 years, educated, “strong” woman of God, and a six-figure earner, end up in domestic and interpersonal violence? Before then I knew nothing about narcissism and spiritual warfare. Although I “grew up in the church”, abuse and living a supernatural, prophetic life were not discussed. I felt like my life had become a made-for-TV Lifetime Network movie. I was in an abusive marriage, married to a raging sociopath, who was like Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde. I could not believe that this was my life. On the outside, I did not appear to be a woman whose husband was abusing me. I did not fit the stereotype of an abused woman - that worked against me in many ways. Abused women aren’t officers in the Army. Are they? Abused women don’t appear happy on the outside. Do they? They don’t serve in ministry and go to church…Do they? Contrary to popular belief they do.
How did I get here?
God made a way of escape, and the work truly began. He took me on a journey of discovery to truly break the chains of narcissist abuse. At that time, I did not imagine that asking a simple question, would lead me on faith-filled assignment to discover my true destiny and calling. When you ask The Most High a question, I always say ask Him for the grace to be able to handle what He shows you. He showed me the Jezebel spirit and witchcraft (narcissism) ran deep in my bloodline. What seemed to be about a narcissistic marriage and subsequent divorce was not about that at all. The roots ran deeper than I ever imagined. I realized I grew up in a narcissistic home. I left at age 18, one week after graduating high school I went into the military. I retired out of Schofield Barracks, Hawaii and retired in Houston, Tx. That’s when the blinders came off and I discovered I had been raised by narcissists. It shocked me to my core. My story is much like Joseph’s, where his own blood threw him in a pit. Like Abraham, Abba instructed me to leave my kinsmen and go no contact. I went no contact with my entire family, with the exception of three people, after my name was smeared and my character assassinated by own mother and family. What seemed like worst thing, prepared me for my calling, business, and ministry.
Breaking The Chains.
Today, I am remarried to my Kingdom husband, Solomon. He and co-labor together to help victims of abuse become victors in Christ. I am FREE. I have the privilege of being a servant to Yahweh and His people. In 2020, after going no contact, God gave me the vision for Narc Free Living LLC. In November 2020, I begin to find my voice. I began speaking about narcissistic mothers and families as a Christian content creator. In 2021, I was awarded Voice of the Voiceless, at a speaker conference with the likes of Cheryl Wood. My magazine features include Voyage LA, Shoutout Houston, Shoutout Dallas, Shoutout LA, BOLD Journey, Speakers Magazine, The Black Family, & Canvas Rebel. The Narc Free Living YouTube channel has over 105,000 Chain Breakers in three years, helping those in Spiritual ICU (the wilderness) find their voices too. In 2022, I formed Chain Breaker University (CBU), a deliverance ministry, mentorship, and intensive coaching program like no other. I am a spiritual midwife, helping women birth purpose and break out of pain. I am also a certified trauma informed recovery coach, business mentor, realtor, community leader, as well as, a speaker, survivor of domestic violence, & an advocate against abuse. It is a privilege to empower others to break the chains of abuse through spiritual warfare equipping, exhortation, empowerment, & education. We go much deeper than recognizing the signs & traits of narcissists. We get to the root of trauma, abuse, so that a transformational mindset shift can truly occur from the inside out as we break the chains of narcissist abuse!
“But as for you, ye thought evil against me; but God meant it unto good, to bring to pass, as it is this day, to save much people alive.” Genesis 50:20
All praise to the King of Kings for delivering you out of narcissistic abuse and for your obedience in answering the call to go back and help other people who are in the FOG.
This is beautiful. I am so thankful to God for Shannon's ministry, and for her obedience to speak out. Her testimony is an addition to my hope in God for my life to turn out right somewhere.
I’m glad Shannon answered the call. She has helped me and many others. Thanks.
Amen! He is faithful! 🙏🏽
Shannon you have made such a huge impact in my life and in turn my sons life. Thank you for your leadership, obedience to ABBA, wise counsel, straight forward and gentle correction, accountability, and a big heart with an honest desire to help others be set free from narc abuse and other chains from the enemy.
You were built for this and God knew it!
May God continue to work through you and bless whatever your hands touch and your your mouth speaks!